Countless numbers of people are even thankful for the challenges they were obliged to endure because of the lessons about happiness it taught them.So if an emotionally independent life of joy cannot be found in arranging the conditions of life just so, where does it exist?If you answered yes to any of those questions, you’re letting others control your internal climate. There are only two places you should go for acceptance. Knowing who you are (#3) will help you better accept yourself, thereby needing external validation much less than before. It has at its roots a historical pedigree of significant consequence. Join us on this happy adventure as you learn how to unlock your hidden potential to enjoy the rewards of a life well lived. Because the abuser suffers from internal discomfort and conflicts they don’t know how to address, no amount of logic, submissiveness or kindness will be enough to compensate or satisfy their insecurities.Those who try to meet these expectations will end up feeling like a failure because it is a game they cannot win.For those who are abused, it is important to remember, the abuse received seldom has anything to do with them. One of the hardest things to realize is one has little to no influence on making deep or lasting changes in the abuser.We can shake them out and turn them upside down and inside out and completely rewrite the messages imprinted in our minds and on our hearts.We can toss out the guilt and shame and feelings of worthlessness and replace them with the more accurate interpretation of parental inadequacy, selfishness or psychosis.
Because the letter sets the context to what I have to say in today’s post, I excerpt it (with permission) here: “I’ve been following M2b H for about 3 months now and have learned a lot about self-improvement…. How can we live on our own and feel complete and happy? I won’t say I’m an angel who didn’t make mistakes; I lack self-control and have temper issues….Do you get offended or hurt or angry when someone doesn’t like you or says something rude about you? And as has been said so many times to the point of cliché, but no less true: “God don’t make junk! As you take steps down the path of your own personal development, you’ll increasingly start liking the person you are gradually becoming, less dependent on others’ thoughts, moods and attitudes about who they think you are (or were). The purpose is to provide a rich supply of resources for those who may be struggling with life, looking for answers to life’s challenges.Do others’ opinions about the job you do or the person you are stick to you like cactus spikes in the tender flesh of your heart? ” So accept yourself as a person of immense potential, beautiful in your creation, limited only by the prison bars you’ve allowed others keep locked or that you imposed on yourself. There’s a tool that can be very useful in mapping out a life of independence. Follow some of the links to see if the added clarity doesn’t help. My purpose here is to teach you how to live a richer life of greater purpose and meaning, of mind-blowing possibility and deeper, more soul-satisfying happiness than you ever dreamt was possible.How do we divorce our feelings about ourselves from others attitudes about us?How do we live happy lives despite the trials and tragedies of life or pain from the past? I choose my emotional responses to life’s circumstances.